Hird Therapy
~Where You'll Be Heard~
Sexual Wellbeing and Kink Aware Therapy
Our sexuality, relationships, and intimate lives can play an important role in our overall wellbeing, yet these are often some of the most difficult topics to talk about openly. Whether you are exploring your sexuality, experiencing challenges within intimate relationships, navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, kink, or simply looking for a space to better understand yourself, counselling can provide an opportunity for honest and non-judgemental exploration.
I offer a kink-aware, sex-positive, and relationship-diversity affirming space where all aspects of your identity, relationships, and experiences are welcome. My role is not to judge, diagnose, or tell you how you should live, but to support you in exploring what feels authentic, meaningful, and healthy for you.
What is kink aware therapy?
Kink-aware therapy recognises that consensual kink, BDSM, fetish, and alternative expressions of sexuality are not inherently unhealthy or problematic. Unfortunately, some people worry they may be judged, misunderstood, or have aspects of their relationships and sexuality viewed negatively within therapy.
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As a kink-aware therapist, I understand that consensual kink and BDSM relationships often involve a high degree of communication, trust, negotiation, self-awareness, and boundary setting. I also recognise that people within these communities can sometimes encounter misunderstanding, stigma, or assumptions from others. My aim is to provide a space where you can discuss your experiences openly without fear of judgement, whether kink is a central part of your life or simply one aspect of who you are.
Sexual wellbeing
Sexual wellbeing is an important part of overall emotional and psychological health, yet it can often feel difficult to talk about openly. Challenges relating to sexuality, intimacy, sexual confidence, relationships, shame, identity, or past experiences can have a significant impact on how we feel about ourselves and our connections with others.
For some people, past experiences of sexual trauma may continue to affect relationships, trust, self-esteem, intimacy, or feelings of safety. I offer a compassionate, non-judgemental space where these experiences can be explored at your own pace, without pressure to discuss anything before you feel ready. My role is to support you in making sense of your experiences and moving towards greater understanding, healing, and wellbeing.
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I can support clients with:
• Sexual wellbeing and sexual confidence
• Exploring sexuality and sexual identity
• Relationship difficulties and intimacy concerns
• Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and polyamory
• Swinging, Alternative and Open relationships
• Kink and BDSM-related experiences
• Communication and boundaries
• Shame, guilt, and self-acceptance
• Sexual trauma and its impact on relationships
• Differences in sexual desire within relationships
• Navigating relationship transitions and change
LGBTQ+
affirming
support
We welcome clients from all backgrounds and identities, including those who identify as LGBTQ+. Whether you are exploring aspects of your identity, navigating relationships, experiencing challenges around acceptance or belonging, or simply looking for a space where you can be yourself, we aim to offer an affirming, respectful, and non-judgemental environment.
Relationships
Ethical and Consensual Non-Monogamy (ENM)
We recognise that relationships are diverse and that traditional relationship models do not fit everyone. Ethical and consensual non-monogamy (ENM) refers to relationship structures where all involved have openly agreed to forms of non-exclusivity, with honesty, communication, and consent at their core.
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ENM can look different for different people. It may include open relationships, polyamorous relationships, relationship anarchy, swinging, or other relationship structures that have been discussed and agreed upon by those involved. What these relationships share is a commitment to openness, communication, and mutual respect.